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HALLENGE
In the next 72 hours, identify four situations where you find it challenging to respond productively
instead of reacting emotionally. Produce a
Reaction Report
for each.
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ORKSHEETS
Reaction Report worksheets
SII Self-Assessment worksheet
Reaction Conclusion Report
My Life Vision worksheet
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REPARATION
1. Make a list of situations where you feel that you typically overreact or where you are not comfortable
that you’re really in control of your reactions (especially with people who know how to press your
buttons or easily trigger you, emotionally).
2. Identify four of these that you are going to focus on in order to analyze your reactions.
3. Fill out four
Reaction Reports
, one for each of the situations on which you are focusing.
4. Analyze the four
Reaction Reports
, completing the
Reaction Conclusion Report
.
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ROBLEMS
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Replay your mental tape of a situation in which you were involved with family or friends where emotions
and reactions escalated negatively. Using your
Reaction Report
, try to figure out what went wrong and
why.
Now complete an
SII Self-Assessment worksheet
focused on your performance during this negatively
escalating situation. As part of that self-assessment, produce action plans with the goal of controlling your
future reactions and for a more productive response.
Now replay the tape of the situation again, imagining the results if you had already implemented these
improvements. What could have been different?
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V
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Complete the following reading, following the instructions for a 4-page
My Life Vision worksheet
, “Ex-
panding My Life Experiences.”
Expanding My Life Experiences
The more experiences we have, the more enriched we become. People who have expanded their experiences
beyond their front door, so to speak, are people who tend to be more successful and fulfilled, emotionally,
intellectually, professionally, and financially. Therefore, reflecting upon how you might expand your
experiences is the first step in living a truly enriching life.
Many of us know people who say things like, “I’ve never seen a play,” or “I’ve never been on a plane,”
or “I’ve never been out of this state.” These are statements that suggest that these people have limited