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Table 1
Stages of the Coping Process
Awareness
Look about (inside or outside oneself) and ascertain what exactly happened.
Understanding
Describe what happened, how it happened, and why it happened.
Rationalization
Constructively place what happened into a context that works for you.
Acceptance
Acknowledge what is factual. Recognize what has happened and accept that
you can’t change it. Rid yourself of all the “what-ifs,” thus accepting the situation
to be true.
Change
Accept, feel comfortable with, and welcome change as something new.
Inner Strength
Believe in yourself, knowing what you feel and think can be validated.
A Sense of Control
Know that ultimately you are in control of your future. You, and no one else but
you, make the choices and decisions that guide your way.
Positive Attitude
View the world positively rather than negatively. Focus on the good rather than
the bad side of situations.
Caring
Possess the basic belief of the good in humankind. Have faith in your
environment, systems, society, people and share this faith with others.
Selective Focus
Understand that we as humans have enormous potential to comprehend and
internalize our external world. As a coping mechanism, we select and focus
on specific areas and aspects (of our lives), which we are best equipped
to deal with emotionally. Based on our value systems, we subconsciously
determine (and prioritize) what we are best able to cope with.
References
Leise, C. (2007). Personal Development Methodology. In S. Beyerlein, C. Holmes, and D. Apple (Project Directors),
Faculty Guidebook.
(pp. 482-486). Lisle, Illinois: Pacific Crest.
Harms, V. (2007). Life Coaching: The Heart of Advising. In S. Beyerlein, C, Holmes, and D. Apple (Project
Directors),
Faculty Guidebook.
(pp. 487-490). Lisle, Illinois: Pacific Crest.